Don't worry, in this house EVERY month is brain tumor and nf awareness month...
I know, as I go through our story, that it becomes almost ridiculously repetitive…statistically improbable bad stuff happens repeatedly! Stability achieved! Scary scan—rescan in 6 weeks! Stability achieved! Lather, rinse, repeat…
But you know, that right there is pretty much HOW life with NF and low grade brain tumors can be. When our doc talked to us in the very beginning about what was going on, she referred to G’s situation as a chronic illness, and it is…just a chronic illness that can take a catastrophic turn in a heartbeat.
So I apologize for the redundancy. Makes a bit more sense now why I am a tad psycho, no?
But in the fall of 2011, we had once AGAIN dodged a bullet. G was stable after growth. We always had a very hard time with these 6 weeks after scare scans…the area of concern was never SMALLER. How can we be zenlike if nothing is smaller? But weird low grade brain tumor factoid: generally you only treat if there is growth or symptoms. G’s tumor growth had stopped…and she was asymptomatic. So we waited. Twitching and increasingly neurotic, we waited.
|bullet dodging day|
(and that wasn’t just me. Dave was aghast at the “growth but then stopped is still ok” thing).
So 9 days after scan day, I had to run my first half marathon, that thing which had seemed like SUCH A GREAT IDEA right after the bad scan. My knees hurt, and I was TERRIFIED. But race day dawned bright and cool, and really, the entire day was one of the most empowering of my life. Don’t get me wrong, it was hard. At mile 5 I saw my girls, hugged them, got the oomph to head into Fairmont Park…mid-park an announcer saw my neon singlet and announced “NF IS IN THE HOUSE” so I cheered back at him…By about mile 8 I was like “are we EVER going to start aiming back towards Philly again?”, and by mile 9 my knees were starting to really hate me…but at mile 10 I was all “WE GOT THIS!” to anyone around me, because ANYONE can do a 5k, and that was all I had left! At mile 12 I pulled out my Team Sandy/G-foRce! keychain, clutched it in my fist, and knew that Sandra was there cheering me on and telling me not to stop…at mile 13 I saw my family, and I was overcome with emotion and sprinted to high five them…and then realized I still had .1 to go, and my legs were DONE. Oops. ;) But I made it, and I was SO PROUD OF ME.
More phobias overcome in 2 hours 17 minutes than I thought possible. And I whomped some NF while I was at it.
These races are so important. Our NF friends on the team in 2011 meant so much to us, and continue to (Kris Whalen, who told me I COULD go 13.1 miles in all one day, Trish Budlong and Steve Kendra…these people mean so much to us).
And then…back to the race of regular life.
School was so hard for G. Just so hard. And the more scares we had, oncology wise, the scarier I became. My fuse for any kind of anything towards G was at an epic low. (That, unfortunately, has not improved). I felt like moving forward became harder each time we had a yikesish scan.
But in October Genna got to meet her other favorite singer, Matthew West. He called her up on stage during his concert and sang Strong Enough and Survivor and all the songs that mean so much to her. She was glowing with delight.
Dave ran his first full marathon in Philly at the end of November, it was a logistical yikes of getting hither and yon along the race course to give him the specific hydration things he needs (we are so careful about that after his weird collapse), and of course Rosie had the stomach bug the morning of the race (my brave girl managed to walk all over Philly to help Daddy). But once again, Dave NFE’d for our girls.
And then, right after Thanksgiving, we were due to scan again. Both Genna and Rosie were due to perform in the Nutcracker through their dance studio…my girls have been blessed for years to dance at AP Motion in Flemington, where Miss Joanna always found a way for my visually impaired, galumphy, vaguely unbalanced child to feel like a dancing queen. So G was due to be an unlikely ballerina the weekend after her scan.
December 5, 2011, is our own day that will live in infamy.
This one is so hard. Five years was just not long enough. But here it is, from Caringbridge, December 5, 2011.
After shunt surgery scheduled for tomorrow.
Every single ounce of my being hurts right now. We knew it was bad as soon as we saw our doctor...
I just can't believe we are here again.
I can't believe 5 years has come and gone and what do we have to show for it?
Walking back onto the onco floor was like stepping into the Twilight Zone, albeit a TZ with newer beds.
G is so upset...thanks to everyone who has texted her or called her, that is literally carrying her, when she is texting or chatting she forgets...now she is watching the CMA's (that would be COUNTRY MUSIC awards? hello?), she just had a doctor ordered bath pre-surgery and I have to do some weird anti-bacterial wipe thing later. We met the anesthesia guy, I have papers about 3 different chemos to choose from (and I know of 2 or 3 others I don't have in my bag). My head is throbbing, and I am eating a salad...I know I have to eat.
I was shaking so badly today when talking to our doc...completely held it together until I had to tell G. She had left the room...
Dear God, I cannot believe we are here again. I cannot believe she will be starting chemo again. She asked if she was going to lose her hair...
As G left our house at 4:40 this morning, she was singing in a deep bass voice, "I hate scan day! I hate scan day!"...
I hate scan day too.
please pray for us, we are just so broken...and my other kids are at home, and I don't know what to do for them, and I have no work for my classes...and how will I keep working?
unprintable moment coming, or tears....
I HATE NF AND BRAIN TUMORS WITH EVERY FIBER OF MY BEING, AND I WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND WHY THIS HAPPENS TO INNOCENT CHILDREN. I just don't.
please storm heaven for my poor G...and my other kids, too...and for me & Dave as we try to pick our poison literally for G.
peace from 3 South room 21...oh my God, I cannot believe we are here...
We finally had met a bullet we couldn’t dodge.
At least I had packed a just in case bag. Dave didn’t.
Her surgery went well, and started early (less fasting!), and Dr. Storm was super fast, fast enough that I was terrified to see him (his response when I said “why are you here already?”…”what, am I not that good?” , which struck me as kind of an awesome answer, honestly.
Back in the beginning, in 2004, when I read the book about brain tumors all in one sitting, people said in a very late chapter that relapse is often harder than the original diagnosis. I feel this might be true, because we KNEW, we knew what chemo was like…to be back at the beginning again was crushing. And G was so much older, she KNEW, she understood...
|this is how she really felt. Sigh. :(|
See, NF optic glioma tend to go dormant at puberty, the ONE good NF thing ever. Non-NF optic glioma tend to fuss about destructively much longer. G’s optic glioma were still stable. But OTHER NF brain tumors don’t have this handy rule. So the area of concern was in G’s hypothalamus and brainstem, and it was obvious and ugly and terrifying and we weren’t sure if the shunt was just clogged or if tumor had blocked it again.
Thankfully, it was just normal clogged. We were home by Wednesday.
And as I struggled to pull myself together (we had so many decisions to make, and since we had blown through three chemos already, we were at the bottom of the barrel chemos now—or, as I said on Caringbridge, “Highly craptastic choices from a melange of sucky alternatives”), G got ready to dance in the Nutcracker on Saturday, December 10.
|so freaking mighty. 5 days after freaking brain surgery.|
That day was a miracle. G gutted it out, she was so beautiful. She was so mighty.
Ultimately, Dave and I decided (with our doc’s help) to enroll G in a Phase II clinical trial of a drug called Sorafenib, ironically a drug I had researched for plexiforms after Rosie’s diagnosis. This drug was an oral chemo, so fewer hospital trips for G and no port…quality of life was a huge issue for us, now that G was a teen she had a say in what we did, and she really didn’t want to go to CHOP a lot. But to do this chemo G had to scan again at the end of the month (literally 12/31) and then wait until we could get approvals and such…she had to be a month post surgery…
So we were given Christmas.
Hard to deck them halls and falalalala in these circumstances, but we tried. G told me about 5 times a day that she didn’t want to start chemo. I couldn’t focus on anything, our shock over starting again was so pervasive…
Realizing too that in less than 2 weeks we are starting again is kind of hitting me. I think in the first week or so of ugh we were able to kind of focus on the YIKES, we are starting…but in kind of a theoretical way, like, we’ll be going to CHOP more, what a pain. G will need a treat post each cycle, better think of that. How will I ever get lesson plans or substitutes for my classes? Oh, is chicken on sale, better stock up…in the last few days there’s been a mental shift to dear God, this is a TRIAL drug. We don’t even know if it will work, and G’s tumors are so obnoxious in the face of treatment…we failed 2 last time before one worked…her tumors could very likely GROW while we’re on this…old feelings long buried. We have been here before. We know what chemo failure is, it is NOT theoretical for G. And this drug has so little info, but once you blast through 3 options …well, the statistics on anything aren’t super great.
And we know too many NF teens who battled long and hard. Past tense. We have so many bt friends in the thick of the battle right now, and NF friends too…it’s brutal in our community right now. Ugh.
And Genna is scared, and not sleeping well, and…sigh.
This has not been a festive week in that corner of my brain. And I know, I know we need to be hopeful, and we will get our game faces on, and we will march forward bravely into the night, but still, it’s freaking terrifying. I think some part of me hoped and secretly thought G had gotten to some magic stable place. She had been off treatment 5 years, and at least 3 of those were mostly drama free-ish. We were the hopeful story.
And maybe we still can be. I am just saying it like it is. The reality is, this is serious. Low grade brain tumors are serious, and I have TWO children with brain tumors. Both of my little girls. This is weighing on me this week. I say it here, so when I see people in real life I can speak without falling apart, I can joke about G’s mighty attitude, I can talk about shoes, or whatever, and NOT fall apart. So far so good. But truly, this is so not good.
Genna is mostly nervous about kids making fun of her (that won’t happen), missing school, feeling weak in her legs, missing school, losing her hair, missing school, etc. It’s a lot for a kid to process, and it is so not what I hoped for my daughter.
But once again, people showered us with love and kindness. We are so grateful for those people.
G’s New Year’s Eve scan was stableish,
|scan day 12/31/11|
And G began her Tumor Battle 2012, tiny pills in the morning, tiny pills at night.
Back in the saddle again…